GOOD MORNING LUCY – HAPPY 10th BIRTHDAY!
We are having a very low-key day, brunch and nails then dinner at her favorite restaurant. We opened presents this AM and she got her big gift, an SLR camera lat week. All is good in Lucyland and I can’t believe she has been here for ten years. Everyday has been a gift and she has added and continues to bring so much to each of our lives.
But – what I really want to talk about today is this cell phone issue.
I just read Jody’s response and I understand from others that this is a big issue.
I will say at our school, for the most part, the kids do not have phones, a few do. In Lucy’s acting class on the Upper East Side, there are many nine year-olds running around with fancier equipment than I have.
To respond to Jody’s query did we have these issues with Taylor and Gabriella?
I think the answer is twofold; phones were not the rage they are today. They were also not devices that connected you to everything under the sun. They were not cameras, video cameras, mp3 players, Gameboys and heaven only knows what else.
They were not the giant distraction they have turned into.
I remember this, we got Taylor a phone after 9/11. Like the next day. This was a good three years earlier than I had planned on, but everyone was so freaked out they went out and got every precaution they could. I think we all thought if another attack hits I want to know where my kid is. Any parent who could afford it went out and bought a cell phone for their kid. I think they would have bought those ankle bracelets they use on prisoners if they could have.
My feeling about the cell phone thing now is, if God forbid something happens, wherever she is if phones work, enough people will have one, she will be able to get me.
The other thing is I still always know her whereabouts; if she is at school, camp, a class, or a friends, she is not roaming the streets of New York like her sister has been the last four years. And as we all know, just because they have the phones does not mean they will answer or respond.
The big issue for me aside from not giving in to too many things too fast, their safety factor is still a question. The info is still not in, but the info that is in seems to say phones are not good for us and they are worse for young people – especially under 18. Their brains are not fully formed yet so the radiation going in is much more dangerous for them than it is for us, or even a 16 or 17 year old.
So I go back to the old JUST SAY NO.
No you cannot have a phone.
I will tell you when you can.
Every time you ask puts it off a little longer.
I do not want her texting every six seconds; I do not want her talking twenty-four –seven. She has a great imagination I want her to use it for as long as possible.
She has a computer, two ipods one with Internet access and a landline in her room.
That is plenty. She is connected.
I love you Lucy – Happy Birthday and one of your gifts you will thank me for someday is I’m not letting radiation seep into your brain at such a young age.