ENOUGH IS ENOUGH
It is day three post eyes. What I really want to do is address some of the questions that have been coming my way, some of the fears I had that have now been elevated, and give you all some tips that came from my merry band of experts and friends.
First off, I have needed this for years. I went to visit another plastic surgeon when I was forty-four who said I needed it then.
I put it off for one reason only, I was scared. Well, there is nothing to be scared of. I was scared of pain. I was scared of dying on the table. I was scared of looking weird, but I looked weird before, at least my eyes did. I can create fears where none exist.
To be honest with you this was easier then the MRI– not that recovery, but the experience. You should still get the MRI, I’m merely using it as means of comparison.
Some people will cheer you on, others will tell you not to do it. I had people calling me the night before telling me to call the whole thing off. Like much of life you should listen to yourself and your doctors; after that it’s really nobody’s business.
The number one question I get is “How do they do it?” The only answer I have for that is if I knew how, I would have taken a butter knife and done it myself.
I’m a big believer in the idea that everyone has different skill sets. I can tell you how to write a movie in about ten minutes, but when it comes to this kind of thing my advice to you is go out and do some research.
Find some friends who have had work done. If you like the way they look, ask them who their doctor is. Do the same if you look at people who have had work done that makes you cringe. Ask them who did it and then stay away.
Have several consultations. Finding the right plastic surgeon is like finding the right mate, you need to feel safe with them. I met with six before Jon Turk. I felt safe with Jon Turk and most importantly he sensed I was reticent– needy, but reticent, so he didn’t push me. He just kept injecting me with stuff to keep me lifted until I was ready. I also saw many people who he had worked on and I liked what I saw. What I liked about Jon Turk’s work is he doesn’t do too much. Better to do a little than end up looking like a Marti Gras mask.
Read up – my advice is get a copy of Joan Kron’s book Lift: Wanting, Fearing And Having a Facelift. It’s not in print but you can get it easily online. Joan was one of the first, if not the first to start writing on the topic. Most of the big articles you have ever read on the subject come from her. She is still on staff at Allure as their plastic surgery editor and correspondent. Anything that happens in the world of plastic surgery Joan knows about it before it happens. She has been my Diogenes through the process. And I don’t know what I would have done without her. I wish she were my mother. But she has her own wonderful children and step-children and I’m not an official orphan; but in my next life I’m requesting Joan to be my mom. Right now I call her Mama Face and as she is the mama of all things that you need to know about your face.
Many people asked me who did my work. Dr. Jon Turk – he has offices in Manhattan and Long Island. If you are not in the area, or do not want to travel here, though many of his patients do, you can email the office. Say I sent you and ask who in your area he recommends. I find doctor recommendations are always some of the best.
Pick a time for your surgery when you have ample time to recover. I can tell now, it’s going to be a good two weeks before I feel like me. Or feel confident enough to really go out and wear make-up. I was invited to a special Dior luncheon and fashion show on Tuesday, I really want to go – I had to turn it down. Though Countess Lu-Ann De Lesseps invited me to her special party and screening for the first season of Real Housewives of New York Thursday. That I’m going to no matter what. But by then it will be ten days. And what better first outing for a pair of new eyes?
If you are doing your full face put aside three weeks.
We’ve been through it earlier this week, but get your full physical, heart check and anything you can. That way when you walk in there you know you are in good shape.
Stay clear of sugar and salt the week leading up to and the week following your surgery.
In fact if you can do it, stay clear of them as much as possible for the rest of your life.
HAVE THE NURSE. One of the biggest mistakes people make is they spend all this money on the doctor and they scrimp on the nurse. Joan told me the after care is as important as the surgery. The beauty consultant Kelly Langberg said the same thing.
I had the nurses for two days. Last night, the bonus night, was the night that really made the difference. I took two Klonopan knocked myself out at nine o’clock and woke up at eight this morning. Angela put ice on my eyes every half hour all night. I cannot tell you the difference it made. So get a nurse. If you have to spend an extra month or two to save for the cost DO IT.
Don’t overdo it when you come home. Blesedly, I have the oh-so-fabulous Salva who also happens to be the oh-so-bossy Salva who keeps sending me back to bed. She is right. I’m staying here until tomorrow.
Keep animals out of your room. Keep kids out of your room. Wash your hands all the time.
Keep all your meds in one place, that way if you need something quickly you have them all right there.
I have a thing about meds being out of view; it always makes me feel like a sick old person. So I put them all in a little bag, stick them in a drawer next to my bed, they are close by and I always know where they are.
Buy yourself a really nice lip balm as it’s pretty much the only thing you can put on that resembles cosmetics. I picked up a JoMalone Vitamin E Lip conditioner. DON’T TAKE VITAMIN E, but you can put it on your lips.
Take probiotics. You will be taking strong antibiotics. I love BioGaia. I take it everyday anyway, but especially now.
Take Arnica the two weeks before and all during your recovery.
I have been drinking Emergen-C since I got home. I drink it all day. I do that anyway, but I’ve been gulping it all day since surgery. It has helped both with energy, hydration and vitamins.
Don’t look at yourself a lot. It doesn’t help. It’s like taking your temperature every few minutes. Blessedly I don’t have a mirror in my bedroom. Lucy keeps bringing in iChat to show me to her friends like some freak show. I refuse. I don’t want to see me, I don’t want them to see me.
Joan gave me some great advice last night– a little pricey, but my kind of advice, she said go and throw out all your make-up. It has bacteria and you have new skin on your eyes, so why take the chance? Lucy is thrilled, she gets to add to her make-up collection and my first venture out will be Barneys! My kind of advice – get new make-up. She said you have a new face, treat it to new make-up.
Dr. Jon Turk: offices in Manhattan and Long Island
212- 421-4845 or 516-921-8989
NURSE – Runa Guy
Runa is starting a new concierge service she will arrange for your hotel, transport and her back-up team of nurses will be at your beck and call with ice, help and all with a smile. Ask for Arlene if Runa is busy.
LIFT:WANTING, FEARING AND HAVING A FACELIFT
By Joan Kron
www.facelift.com Joan’s Website – check it out!
a great source for all your supplements – tell Matt I sent you!
Available through Dr. Jon Turk’s office
To get off the whole face thing and just see some amazing art – check out Matt Satz
Salva is yelling at me – time to go.